Saturday, April 19, 2008

The Love of the Departed

The love of the departed is about the love of two people, who are no more together. It is about many phases of love, say – from the eternally beautiful feelings of true love to the pains of being alone, from the times spent together to the timelessness of the memories, from the hope of doing everything together to the desperation of doing everything alone, from the sense of being the one to the sense of being the departed.

The definition of love may differ from people to people; but one thing is certain that true love is like experiencing ecstasy. The decisions made for the sake of love may sometimes far outweigh any rational decision.

It is needless to mention that true love is one of the strongest emotions in this world. It is like an ocean in itself, mostly overflowing in the form of other emotions. It may be hard to realize the true value of love, till one is into a relationship; because along with all other things, love is also governed by matters of – expectations, intimacy, individual preferences, insecurity, ego, and the impulse to be together. The realization takes its own time, when one can view everything in a linear world, and that linear view usually comes after being departed.

Immediately after the breakup we may feel hatred; but hatred for what – What we got or what we didn’t? Although love does come with its own set of lifelong experiences, however it is the departure, which brings lifelong wisdom. Such is the power of true love that it may motivate one to challenge the reasons of his existence. And for some people, once love is over, the relentless pursuit of happiness marks the pursuit of happiness lost!

The love of the departed is sometimes much pure than any other form of love. It has forgiveness and respect, which reflect true signs of love. The love of departed doesn’t have any expectations from anybody, and it is irrespective of the people being together. It transcends all the physical, mental and emotional barriers.

No doubt that the love of the departed comes at its own costs and agony, but it does bring the wisdom, patience and willpower. If the love of the departed is the pain, then it is the healing as well. It shouldn’t be propagated that the love of the departed is the truest or the best form of love, however, certainly people who experience it, do understand much deeper meanings of love than others.

A lot of people experience the energy that love possesses. This energy could perhaps be diverted towards any creative or constructive purpose. For quite many of us, the beginning of the love of the departed can embark the beginning of a new beginning, where there is an urge to excel, in anything or everything.

And last but not least, the love of the departed is about the evolution of a person from being the departed to being the creator of a new destiny, for there is always something more to do.

9 comments:

TAMANNA said...

hey..i never knew u were so sensitive about issues like this, its a different perception for each individual altogether but none the less life doesn't stop it has to move on and why not move on with more spirit and energy than every passing phase...

Ruchi said...

hi..was expecting something unique..n yes it is..three things caught my attention in d article..First, i read somewhere true love means total acceptance n no expectation; but in reality yes it is governed by expectations.
Second, if the love of d departed is pain then its a healing too..it teaches a person many valuable lessons of life.
and Last,it encourages and motivates to start a new journey..
Those who mourn and develop hatred feelings on being departed,i would say they were never in love..
BECAUSE, love is a path to self realization ..

Rajat said...

Hi,
I like some new perspectives u v shared here and some that I agree with.
Just thought the article was a bit too confusing, lacked direction and words did not sound natural.

Anonymous said...

i speechless......but i have understood each n every word u have mentioned in this.....i Wish u lots n lots of success n love in life........n yes u r rite "life doesn't stop" and "the love of the departed is about the evolution of a person from being departed to being the creator of a new destiny"....May God bless u.....

disaster said...

hey,

i dint know you feel so strongly and put your expressions so beautifully.
Though, I am still to experience such strong feelings but whatever i have experienced uptil now. The lesson is --It doesn't matter what was wrong with me or her or the world, or her parents, her friends, her interests, her ice-cream flavor. WHO CARES??
Just find out what was right with all these things... Learn from them and MOVE ON.
Life is waiting...
Thanks for sharing your thoughts.
Hope to read some more life fundas from you.
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samaayra said...

Tanu, wat to say, as u were already aware of the fact that, i will be the only one who will be most surprised n shocked after reading this article..... although i totaly liked wat ever u hav written..coz i my slf can also relate to this, especially, "The love of the departed is sometimes the most purest form of love. It has forgiveness and respect, which reflects the true signs of love...." i still can not digest the fact , that u have written this :-)) God bless u...baby !! with lots of good luck ,success..n love...
Rachna

Naina said...

Very apt and sensitive. Makes you sit back and think. nicely written too.

The Rootless Wanderer said...

Very apt and sensitive. Makes you sit back and think. Nicely written too.

Anonymous said...

felt like reading it again...Hope you are doing well..trust everything is fine with you.